Posted by: Dawud Israel | December 5, 2010

An Easy Way to Control Lust

Bismillah, alhamdulillah wa salat wa salam ala Rasulullah

When it comes to discussing controlling sexual urges most Muslims ignore discussion and quickly recommend the Prophetic advice of fasting. Although fasting and reducing consumption is by far the most effective way of conditioning ones body and spirit, to control sexual urges, there is no reason to limit the advice to that, especially in our day and age. This is important to investigate because some point out that when they are NOT fasting, they still have difficulty controlling their urges.

After doing some research I came across a number of herbal alternatives that reduce male libido. Some of these have been used by monks in the past, such as chasteberry, while others have reduced libido as a side-effect. Here are some herbs that have been known to help reduce male libido:

-Black Liquorice
-American Black Willow
-Black Willow
-Coca (not cocoa)
-Garden Sage
-Life Everlasting
-Oregon Grape
-White Pond Lily
-Chamomile tea

There are also some drugs like Libidno and Androease, which are available but I think there is more risk and side-effects associated with them, since they play with ones testosterone/estrogen levels. Its might not be easy to find these herbs but its worth it. GNC sells Skullcap, but I found Valerian Root the easiest to find at a local pharmacy, Shoppers Drug Mart. I tested Valerian Root out (be warned: it realllly smells!) and from what I can tell so far, it works to completely drop your libido for about 6-8 hours and also make you somewhat sleepy (its intended use is as a sleep aid).

I haven’t heard Muslims discuss this option but its an easy and effective method with very little risk associated with it. Its important also to keep in mind that using these herbs over a prolonged period of time or mixing them with other herbs and medicines may create problems, so use them occassionally so that they retain their effectiveness and your body remains sensitive to their effects. Also it would be a good idea to talk to a doctor before using them, or at least do thorough research and reading on them.

William Shakespeare – Sonnet #129

The expense of spirit in a waste of shame
Is lust in action; and till action, lust
Is perjured, murderous, bloody, full of blame,
Savage, extreme, rude, cruel, not to trust;
Enjoy’d no sooner but despised straight;
Past reason hunted; and no sooner had,
Past reason hated, as a swallowed bait,
On purpose laid to make the taker mad:
Mad in pursuit, and in possession so;
Had, having, and in quest to have, extreme;
A bliss in proof, and proved, a very woe;
Before, a joy proposed; behind, a dream.

All this the world well knows; yet none knows well
To shun the heaven that leads men to this hell.

More resources on controlling lusts:

Cultivating Himma: Guidance in Dealing with the ‘Sex Arcade Society,’ Porn and Related Fitnahs

Purify Your Gaze Program

Dhikr on Overcoming Desires


  1. It seems to me that this is either a really good option for a lot of Muslims out there, or an iffy one.
    In support of these alternatives, I say that it’s sad that people have to resort to taking pills to stay away from haram; Muslims make it so hard to get hitched these days. A very creative idea for people who [for obvious reasons] can’t fast all the time.
    But at the same time, something seems wrong about taking these… Isn’t the the whole point to fight your urges, rather than shut them off? Couldn’t I just take a pill that inhibits hunger during Ramadan, then?

    I don’t know about this. Before talking to a doctor, I would consult with a sheikh.
    But maybe I’m wrong.

    Jazak Allah Khairun!

    • Well…if my intention is to reduce my libido by taking it, I still get the reward for it, because it is with that intention I take the supplement. Its like making dua, “Subhanallah to the number of creation,” its a bit of a shortcupt but its permitted. And there is a fiqh usul: anything that helps you fulfill a wajib, is wajib. I wouldn’t call this wajib…but its definitely helpful!

      In times such as ours, its a little naive to think we can succeed so easily, especially when pornography and prostitution are so rampant. And this is of course a temporary solution- not a final one.

      I don’t think the hunger/ramadan analogy is fair- you could equally say, “Since I get used to the hunger after 10 or so days of fasting, then I’m not fighting my urges anymore, so I shouldn’t be fasting.” Its easy for me to see how shaytan can get in there and steer you away from something that helps your eman. If a herb helps, and helps you worship Allah more, and you take it with that niyyah- you might not get the reward of someone who is struggling but nonetheless you still would get a reward because you know yourself and your limits. Its similar to using coffee to help you stay up at night in tahajjud.

      Also there are similar options for women.

  2. The herbs really work!

    @Shakespeare’s poem, lawl. xD

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  4. I think I have a solution to add to the list and is def. a sunna compliant!

    Jessa Gamble explains in her study on sleep in a world of natural light only, ppl sleep from around 8-midnight and then 2 am to sunrise, during the 2 hour break, ppl experience a meditative wakefulness
    watch (you can skip to 2:42 is don’t have to much time)

    whats interesting is that sleeping in such a pattern, causes a surge in prolactin, which when increased above regular levels reduces libido

    so if someone is trying to ‘seek patience in prayer’ , i.e. praying the night prayer a.k.a tahujjud, they are naturally increasing their prolactin and thus reducing their drive!

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